When you write your first book, people will be excited for you.
Remember the glimmer you had in your eyes a long time ago when you mentioned that you wanted to write a book one day? Remember your best friend/sister/parent/whomever saying how cool it would be and how you’d be on a bestsellers’ list and they would boast about how they knew you way back when? Yeah, keep that feeling and motivation but lose the thought of folks you know being with you for every release, every signing, every whatever.
It simply won’t happen.
People have their own lives to live, you need to live yours. The sooner you realize this, the sooner you’ll develop thicker skin and won’t be disappointed when they don’t show up to support you. It doesn’t necessarily mean they’re not supporting you, it means you’re doing your thing and that thing you’re doing doesn’t necessarily have to be their thing. (Say that five times as fast as you can.)
Don’t lose heart, faith or your purpose on your journey just because those who started out with you have fallen by the wayside, or so you think. It’s all right. Some people aren’t meant to finish your race with you. Some are there to encourage you to simply run. Some are there to cheer for you at the finish line. Some may say keep up the good work. Some may return to their car after the race begins and drive off, hoping to hear that you got too tired and quit. Whatever you do, do not be discouraged by what your friends and family do or don’t do regarding your writing journey. It’s your gift and you must use it, regardless of what they do.
You know what? It really doesn’t matter what they do. What matters is what you do.
I don’t really think all of my friends have read my books. It used to bother me and I’d ask periodically, but now I can confidently and without hesitation say, WHATEVER. I have readers, books are selling and that’s all that really matters. My work is getting in the hands of people who don’t know me, and that is the goal anyway, to reach new, untapped readers, right?
So, keep writing the stories you’ve been given. Keep thinking through plots, developing characters and creating drama. It’s your gift and no one can take it from you. Your friends are still your friends, your family is still your family and you are still a writer—even if they haven’t or never will pick up your work to read it.