Seize the moment

Last week a dear friend of mine passed away suddenly. I, like many, were in shock because we are in our mid 40’s so how could that happen? It could happen because…things happen. Unexpected things–both good and bad.

Unfortunately, that’s how life is on earth.

It was an emotionally charged week for me and I’m still feeling some kind of way about it. This post is to honor my friend by saying:


When your buddy calls you up, answer the phone if it’s only for a brief minute because the next minute isn’t promised. What I have learned from the last several days is that friendships and family are important. Don’t take for granted that the person you care about will be there the next time you want to talk to them.

When my mother-in-law passed away over 10 years ago, I felt like life had been sucked out of me. She was the best mother-in-law/friend a daughter-in-law could ask for. She was a good friend and confidant to me and we had a very special relationship. I felt that same pain last week. My friend wasn’t just a friend but she was like a sister. She was a sorority sister. We pledged together at our college over 25 years ago. Whether you’re familiar with sorority/fraternity life or not, you probably know someone who’s like family and probably can’t imagine the pain of losing them because:

There’s history there.
There’s pain and suffering there.
There’s an unspoken love there.

As I stood to speak at her funeral, it was surreal. It felt as if I were acting in a play I had written and my role was to act as if someone had really left this earth–but I wasn’t acting. It wasn’t a script I’d written. It wasn’t a scene from one of my novels. It was real-life and this real-life drama hurt.

I have spoken with my other sorority sisters almost every day since we learned of her passing and the one thing it has done is brought us back together. I hadn’t realized we were apart–until now.

So, I say seize the moment.


Do it together with those you care about before it’s too late. Tell someone you love them. Do it now.

This post is dedicated to my Soror, Velma G. Burgess. 

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2 Responses to Seize the moment

  1. Daphine, this was a lovely post. I will take this time to say, I love you, my friend. I’m still praying for you in the loss of your sorority sister. I understand the bond and the closeness. Know that God is with you every step of the way. I’m also here for you if you need me. Peace and blessings.

  2. Drake says:

    Great Post!

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