It is my goal to get readers up close and personal with the characters they read about as I continue my interview series with the main characters from Too Many Lies. Last week I spoke with Deidre Thompson, this week it’s Stanley’s turn to sound off.
DGR: Thank you for your time, Stanley. So, we’ve heard from your ex-wife, Deidre, now it’s your turn. I am happy you accepted my interview request. Tell us a little about yourself.
Stanley: First I’d like to let everyone know about my Facebook profile. Send me a friend request at Facebook.com/callmestantheman
DGR: That is right, I forgot you’re on Facebook. Readers seem to like interacting with you when you comment on my page. Thanks for the reminder. Okay, back to the interview question.
Stanley: Well, I don’t think I need an introduction. Everybody in America seems to think they know me already because you put all my business out there in that book. You got everybody thinking I’m some sex-craved, porn-addicted, adulterer who has control and alcohol problems. What else can I say?
DGR: Okay, let’s establish some ground rules here. I invited you on Books, Writing & Life to get your side of the story. There’s no need to be disrespectful or to come across as crass. Aren’t you a changed man? Let’s begin there.
Stanley: My bad, Mrs. Robinson. I’m tired of everyone thinking they know me when obviously they don’t. People tend to forget about the end of the book and are quick to only remember my sins.
DGR: Yes, we know you’re a changed man, Stanley, but when you come off like you just did, we wonder. You’re going have to make an outward change as well as inside.
Stanley: You’re absolutely right. I apologize.
DGR: When I spoke to Deidre last week, she said she loved you for a long time. What do you think of that statement?
Stanley: I loved Deidre, too. I admit I made mistakes—a lot of mistakes. I made some unpopular choices and it cost me my marriage and it cost Deidre her chance at a better life. The good thing about being married to her was I saw what a Christian is supposed to look like. She was a good example and I’m proud to have her as the mother of my two sons. She’s a good woman, and I can finally say Brandon deserves her.
DGR: Wow! What a lovely thing to say. In Too Many Lies, you kept some dark secrets from your wife. Did you think she would never find out about your relationship with Felicia and Stalisha?
Stanley: Like I told my ex-wife, I didn’t want to hurt her. I didn’t know what else to do. I was young so I went along with everything my mother orchestrated. It wasn’t the manly or godly thing to do, but what’s in the past is in the past.
DGR: Your situation is proof that what is done in the dark does come to light. How are you dealing with your addiction and your daughter?
Stanley: I am in a support group for men at my new church, Outreach Fellowship. We have an awesome leader, Bishop McCain. He actually witnessed to me in the parking lot of the Red Door Lounge one night after Deidre got married. As far as Stalisha, we’re doing fine. My mother has definitely made up for lost time with her and we’re very close now.
DGR: Hold on a minute, the Red Door Lounge? You went back after Deidre busted you there with Marsha Collins? Are you serious?
Stanley: Again, I’ve done a lot I’m not proud of. When Deidre married Brandon, I slipped. I fell down but I got back up, due to Bishop McCain. He met me in the parking lot one night and I was lit up [sic], know what I mean? He witnessed to me and invited me to his men’s fellowship. I went faithfully because I knew I’d messed up and I really did want to live right. I have too many people relying on me to keep on messing up. I went and the rest, as they say, is history.
DGR: That’s very encouraging, Stanley. Felicia gets out of prison in a few years. How have you prepared to have her back in your life? Have you been to see her?
Stanley: No, I haven’t been to see her, and unfortunately, I don’t plan to. We’re Stalisha’s parents, but that’s it. I don’t see a need to have any contact with Felicia.
DGR: I don’t have a blended family, but I think once she’s out, you’ll see things differently based on my observations of blended families. Moving right along, I hear you have a new woman in your life. You remarried? Tell readers about her.
Stanley: Ahh, yes, Katrina.
DGR: Look at you blushing.
Stanley: God is one of second chances. Katrina is very special to me because she met me when I was at my lowest. She’s a wonderful woman with a colorful past as well, so she gets me and I get her. We’ve both been transformed from the inside out, and for that, I’m eternally grateful. She saw the best in me when no one else would give me a chance.
DGR: That sounds wonderful. She sounds like a lovely woman.
Stanley: She is and she stands right beside me. She won’t let me fall and she’s a tough cookie. I like that about her. She’s not passive like Deidre. Katrina will get in my face and rip me a new one, know what I mean?
DGR: What can we look forward to in the future?
Stanley: Well, you’re writing my new book, the second in the Lies series, and it details what happens in my life with my new wife and my new church. If you thought Too Many Lies was a good read, you’ll be up all night trying to figure out what happens next in this one. I appreciate you for allowing me to tell my story in this one. I will say this: don’t expect me to be a holy roller on every page. Being a changed man is a process—remember that.
DGR: Alrighty then! Yes, readers are looking forward to the next book which means I need to end this interview and get back to writing. Thank you for taking time to talk to me today.
If you haven’t read Too Many Lies, you need to. Too Many Lies is available in paperback on BarneandNoble.com and Amazon. You can also download on Kindle. (Nook, Kobo, iBooks, and Sony will be available in October 2012.)
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