It’s Week 4 of the Mommy Moments Blog Series. (Yay!)
Pam Margolis is our guest blogger this week.
Daphine: Welcome to the series. Thanks for participating in the blog series. Let’s get started. Tell us about yourself.
Pam: I have two children. Pumpkin is 14 and Number One Son is almost 18.
Daphine: Do you work outside of the home?
Pam: I just recently started working as a preschool teacher, which I love. I’ve been a stay-at-home mom working part-time for over 10 years while finishing school. I have a Master’s Degree in library science, but I am drawn to the youngest kiddos, and am happiest with them. Working outside of the home full-time has been an adjustment for everyone. I am still learning how to work full-time again.
Daphine: Congratulations! After 10 years, I guess that would be quite the transition.
Pam: My youngest does not remember when she was a baby/toddler. I used to work 40+ hours a week—so, we are all learning. Time management seems to be my biggest problem, so, my husband and Pumpkin help me out a lot. (Number 1 Son was away at college this year). To help me out, my husband buys most of the groceries, and my daughter does some cooking and cleaning. On the weekends, I try to spend time with the family—in between remaining housework and prepping the next week’s lessons.
Daphine: What is your definition of motherhood?
Pam: Motherhood can be many things. I guess to me, it is the all-encompassing idea that no matter what I’m currently doing, I will drop it all to care for my children when they really need me.
Daphine: Do you have a parenting story to share with us?
Pam: Let me think… Well, Pumpkin was a very difficult child. Very difficult—stubborn, mean, spoiled, etc. Her father and I were divorced and we had a lot of different family members doting on her, including her older brother, who still acts like her mama to this day. One day after church we were in the grocery store and Pumpkin threw a fit about something, I don’t remember what. She was all dressed up in a beautiful church dress and threw herself on the dirty grocery store floor. I was trying the old walk away from them when they have a tantrum technique, but it was backfiring because her brother kept ignoring my instructions and was talking to her, trying to get her to calm down.
The lesson I learned from that situation is to stay calm and stand my ground. At fourteen she still throws occasional tantrums, but I try to follow my own advice and not give her any attention until she calms down. Basically, I may have to send her to her room or go to my room and shut the door. Since her brother has been away at college, she and I have had to learn how to be together without his running interference.
I was very upset about Number One Son going off to college, but after he left, I realized that he was the source of a lot of my stress. The transition was difficult, but once Pumpkin and I were able to get through it, we developed a nice relationship and have been able to focus on things we like to do together, rather than what Number One Son was or wasn’t doing. Having the boy back home for the summer has taught us all something new: the world (our family,) does not revolve around him anymore—he has to fit into our lives, not the other way around!
P.S. I lie about my age. 🙂
Daphine: Aww, thanks for sharing with us, Pam. Enjoy your summer with your family.
Pam is has her own blog, The Unconventional Librarian. Stop by and see what she’s talking about.
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